Instructions for guys on the first date: how to behave with a girl and where to go. Basic rules of restaurant etiquette How to sit with a girl in a cafe

For five days, we talked about polite people, the terrible habits of the townspeople and the rules of conduct in different places. In this article, we come up with a list of recommendations on how to behave in cafes and restaurants.

1. DO NOT PHOTOGRAPH THE DISH from all possible angles, if it needs to be eaten hot. First, you'll upset the chef by not tasting the food in perfect condition. Secondly, sometimes an almost empty plate with artistic stains from the sauce looks no worse than a freshly cooked dish.

2. WELCOME LOUDLY an acquaintance who appeared at the door of an institution is indecent.

3. Try to listen to your interlocutors,
instead of staring at the phone.

4. Don't stare intently people at other tables.

5. Don't throw it in the ashtray paper napkins and other bulky items, as it is intended for ashes, cigarette butts and small debris.

6. TRY TO POSITION AT THE TABLE so that neither you nor your bags interfere with other visitors.

7. PUSH CHAIRS AFTER YOU LEAVING THE CAFE. It will be easier for other visitors to make their way through the narrow passages. In addition, it is possible that after you a gallant couple will sit at this table, and the man will first want to push, and then move the chair to his companion.

8. Do not criticize the chef and bartender and don't tell them how to cook unless you're the chef or bartender yourself. It makes even less sense to throw a tantrum at the waiter about bad food. If you are really sure that the dish is poorly cooked, calmly ask the waiter to take it to the kitchen and show it to the chef. The chef will be grateful to you, because this is one of the ways to track the work of his wards.

9. While on the toilet, don't peek
in the mirror one more, last, 37th time. Be mindful of others: it's not easy for them to stand
in line for an extra minute.

10. Entering a cafe or restaurant, Don't run to the first table you see. Wait until you are escorted to it by the head waiter or the waiter on duty at the entrance.

11. Toothpick is not fun but a necessity. When using it, it is better to cover your mouth with your free hand. And do not break the toothpick after use, scattering chips around you.

12. Take from plates with common dishes preferably with a device specially designed for this, and not with your own spoon or fork.

13. Don't follow the table perform cosmetic and hygiene procedures.

14. If you visit a cafe alone, you should not bury yourself in a laptop and laugh out loud from time to time.

15. Don't sit down at the tables of other visitors without an invitation.

16. Don't call the waiter if you haven't made your choice yet.

17. Don't scold waiters for slow service. They are probably just overworked.

18. Do not ask the waiter smart questions:“Do you dilute your beer?”, “What is your most delicious?”, “Are you sure there are no other free tables?” and so on.

19. Don't go unnoticed rearrange the “Reserved” sign from the table you like to another.

20. If you want to get rid of chewing gum, first wrap it in a napkin, and only then throw it away.

22. Try to talk Don't be too loud and don't swear.

illustrations: Masha Shishova

- Meeting

Important point
Do not focus on the lateness of a young man. If this happened, then he should apologize and briefly explain the reason for being late, she should apologize and no longer raise this topic.

Of course, the young man must be at the meeting point before the girl. This is not only to avoid making her wait alone,
but also to find a free table. Of course, the problem with finding a table nowadays
occurs rarely, however, believe me, joint
finding a free space will definitely become one
from the worst moments of the evening.

Exception. If the girl made an appointment
not on the premises.

- In the restaurant

If the restaurant has a wardrobe,
then the young man must help the girl take off her outer clothing before he undresses himself. At the same time, the young man leaves both numbers
at home. In addition, he, and not the cloakroom attendant, gives the coat to the girl at the exit from the establishment. It is advisable to leave bags, packages in the wardrobe
and portfolios.

The girl must enter the restaurant first, but inside the restaurant the young man must step forward to select a table (if he has not already done so).

Exception. If visitors are met at the establishment by a waiter or metro
then the man should allow him to choose a table and, at the same time, let the girl go ahead.

From my observations, etiquette is often forgotten. And the age of the guest does not matter.

Now, in winter, the most relevant violation of the rules of etiquette is the unwillingness to leave outerwear.
in wardrobe. Every day there are visitors who come into the room in fur coats or jackets.

If, again, we talk about clothes, then you can see men who first dress themselves, and then ... involuntarily wait for the woman to dress herself and open the door. To myself and to him. By the way, this also applies to restaurants with a high check, which speaks about the general picture of restaurant etiquette in general.

But, as can be seen from practice, the score in most cases
However, the man pays. In one of our establishments, the check is placed in the middle of the table. Guess why.

- At the table

Important point
It is believed that where
there is a toilet in the establishment, everyone should ask on their own.

How to choose a good table?

A good table is located against the wall. You need to sit down so that the girl, if possible, is located facing the entrance to the hall.

Who should read the menu?

If there is only one menu on the table, then the young man should offer it to the girl. The girl, in turn, can invite the companion to read out its contents.

How to greet friends?

You can greet both men and women without getting up. But if a friend or stranger passing by turned to you with some question, then the person sitting at the table must stand up to speak with him on an equal footing.

How to introduce your friends?

If your acquaintance lingered at the table to say a few phrases, then it is not necessary to introduce him to your companion. If the conversation dragged on, then you can invite a friend to your table. Obviously, a person needs to be introduced.
At the same time, he should stand, the men sitting at the table should stand up to say hello, but the girls rise only if the acquaintance also occurs with the girl.

One of the categories of regular visitors to the restaurants "Bakhchai" and "Long Tail" - couples. Some try very hard to express their feelings and do not pay attention to other visitors. Even for children.

Parents are often so busy eating
or chatting with friends that they forget about the children who, with their activity, do not allow the neighbors in the hall to enjoy the atmosphere calmly.

And some visitors do not control their speech,
while others completely forget that animals, at least
in public places, it is not supposed to eat from the same plate
with the owner.

Can I smoke?

It is best to smoke at the exit from the establishment. It is acceptable to smoke while your order is being prepared in the kitchen, or after dinner. However, smoking during dinner is disrespectful
both to the companion and to the chef of the establishment.

- Calculation

Important point
You cannot demand a bill while your companion is having dinner. This is how you show your disrespect for him. The exception is when the companion is in a hurry or asked you to do so.

If a young man pays for two, then with a bill
he understands on his own, but the girl does not enter
in negotiations with the waiter and does not comment on the actions of the companion.

Exception. A girl can pay for herself when she was not invited to dinner, but, for example, she met a friend already at the institution. In this case, she just needs to remind the waiter about the dishes she ordered.
and ask for a separate account. However, the young man
must pay the cost of wine or alcohol.

It is important to remember that in most cases it is the young man who should offer to leave the restaurant or continue the evening somewhere else. Especially if it was he who initiated this meeting, or he himself ordered a table. Such an offer from a girl is an exceptional case. However, this usually indicates
that the evening in the institution turned out to be somewhat protracted.

B - how to have dinner so that later you would not be ashamed.

Everyone should follow the rules of etiquette in a restaurant in order to make a good impression of themselves.

Compliance with the rules of etiquette will help you have a great evening, and leave a good impression on others about yourself. Don't know how to behave in a restaurant? Relax and enjoy. But don't forget about etiquette.

• We all love to have lunch and dinner at home. But sometimes such constancy bothers, and you want to go to an expensive restaurant, taste real culinary masterpieces.
• Often ladies are invited to the restaurant by their fans, grooms or husbands. How to make a good impression of yourself? What should you say to the waiter, and what can you ask him?
• It often seems to us that nothing can spoil the rest, destroy the holiday atmosphere. But a lot depends on behavior. If everything is done correctly, good memories of the holiday will remain.

It is better to book a table in advance, but if the decision to go to a restaurant was spontaneous, you should resolve all issues with the administrator. Do not immediately go into the hall and take the first free seat. After all, perhaps the table is already booked by other guests.

The administrator is usually located at his desk near the entrance. If he is not there, then you need to wait, he can deal with visitors who came before you.

So, the administrator invited you to a table. Now the question arises: how to behave in a restaurant, how to communicate with a waiter? Etiquette and rules of conduct:

• Relax and keep at ease. Remove excess stress, enjoy the evening. Pleasant atmosphere, beautiful design of the hall, gallant waiters, beautiful outfit - all this makes you want to be the hero of the evening. Spend time with pleasure.
• Start eating with everyone. If food has been brought to you, but other people from your company have not yet, you do not need to immediately grab a fork and knife and use them for their intended purpose. You can warn the waiter in advance to bring the dishes at the same time.
• Consider the specifics of the restaurant, forget about your tastes. If you go to a fish restaurant, don't order meat. At a famous restaurant that serves delicious steaks, you don't have to limit yourself to salad.
• Don't be afraid to ask the waiter questions. If there are incomprehensible names of dishes on the menu, ask the waiter what this dish is made of. This is especially important if you are allergic to certain foods.
• Always ask the price if you are interested. There is nothing shameful in this. The waiter may suggest a restaurant specialty and you may ask for a price.
• Leave a tip. According to the rule of etiquette, you need to leave 10% (of the value of the check) or more to the waiter for a tip. It's a shame not to leave a tip if you've been well served.

Customers mostly don't talk to waiters. The restaurant employee must take the order, serve the guest at the highest level and ask to pay for dinner. Visitors should have a good rest and not bother about the fact that they can do something wrong or say the wrong thing.

Etiquette in a restaurant - cutlery: how to use, how to put after a meal?

In a restaurant, you usually have to use more than one fork and knife. But do not be afraid of a large number of devices near your plate. Here are some tips on how to use it, how to put cutlery after eating. The rules of etiquette in a restaurant on this occasion say the following:

• Remember the order in which the dishes are served. First, a salad - cold or hot, then the first course, if you ordered it, and the second course.
• Start your meal with the forks and knives furthest away from your plate., and move to those that are closer.
• If the fork or knife has fallen off the table, do not focus on it.. Call an employee of the institution, and ask to replace the device for you.

Remember: The length of the salad knife is the same diameter as the appetizer plate, the appetizer fork is slightly shorter. The length of the second course knife is equal to the diameter of the plate in which the dish was brought to you. The table fork is long, and a long spoon and knife are used to serve portions from a shared plate.

• Dessert dishes are served with other utensils: knife with a sharp tip, a fork with three cloves and a small spoon.
• Fruits are served with special cutlery: fork and knife for eating fruits are smaller than dessert cutlery.
• Separate spoons are used for drinks: for coffee - coffee, for tea - tea. A teaspoon can be used for soft-boiled eggs, as well as for cocoa drink and smoothies.
• Additional devices: tongs, special forks, spoons and knives. With a two-pronged fork, you can take a piece of herring, as well as eat crab or shrimp. A small spoon, which is in the salt shaker, helps to add salt to the dishes. With the help of tongs, they put confectionery, sugar, marshmallows, sweets and marmalade on their plate.

Restaurant etiquette - cutlery

Important: If there is red or black caviar on the table, then there is a special spatula to put this dish on a plate. A large rectangular spatula is designed for shifting meat or vegetables. A small figured spatula is used for pate.

General rules for using cutlery:

• The knife should always be in the right hand.
• When you eat food with a fork or spoon, keep the utensils parallel to the table.. Do not blow on a hot dish.
• If there is some soup left in the bowl, you can finish it. tilting the plate away from you. Scoop up the rest of the soup carefully, do not hit the plate.
• During a pause or conversation at the table, cutlery must be placed on a plate, next to food.
• If the knife and fork lie parallel to each other on the plate, and the knife is turned with the tip towards the fork, which indicates the end of the meal. For the waiter, this suggests that the plate can be removed.

In the following video, an etiquette specialist will tell you how and what a well-mannered person should do at the table, and how to use forks and knives correctly.

Video: How to use cutlery correctly

You should not take with your hands at the table what you can eat with the help of cutlery. A dish that can be eaten with a fork should not be eaten with a spoon. There are many nuances of behavior at the table, like eating a barbecue, a burger or an expensive dish. Here are some rules:

• Shish kebab pieces are removed from the skewers and eaten with a knife and fork..
• Burger should be held with hands. Cutlery is not used. Bite off in small portions and chew the dish for a long time.
• Expensive dish, for example, lobsters are served with special cutlery. Using a sharp knife with a hole, break out the claws. Use a two-pronged fork to eat lobster meat. To the left of the plate will be a bowl of water. In it, you can rinse your hands after a meal.

The main thing in a restaurant is to eat silently. But, if you can’t, for example, cope with a lobster, ask the waiter to help.

The napkin always accompanies us at the table. This is not only a decor item, but also a unique serving item that helps to facilitate the meal. Often in a restaurant you can see that a person ignores the napkin or pretends that it does not exist. No need to be afraid of this serving item.

How to use napkins in a restaurant - rules:

• This hygiene product should be on your lap, not on your neck or on a table.
• If the napkin is dirty, you can ask the employee of the institution to replace it with a fresh one.
• At the end of dinner, the napkin is left to the left of the plate. You should not put this item on a plate, no matter you used a cloth napkin or a paper one.

If you need to leave during dinner, a napkin is also placed next to the plate on the left. It is unacceptable to hang it on the back of a chair or put it on its seat.

As soon as the waiter or your companion poured beer into glasses, you need to start drinking it. This drink is usually poured according to a special mark. If there is no such mark, then no more than 3/4 of the glass should be poured.

According to beer etiquette in a restaurant, one should not drink a lot of beer or stretch the process for a long time. First, half a cup is drunk, and the rest is divided into two doses. Do not mix beer with other types of alcohol. Dark beers are worth drinking in the cold season with salads and hot dishes. Light beers are good to drink in summer with shrimps or pistachios.

If you came to the restaurant before the rest of your friends from your company, then you should wait for everyone outside. The waiter pushes the chair back to the girl as she sits down at the table. But, if there are several girls, then their companions help them.

Other important rules of etiquette in a restaurant at the table for a girl:

• Hide your excitement. If you don't know how to use certain appliances correctly, see how others do.
• At the table you need not only to eat, but also to keep up the conversation. There are forbidden topics: about illness, death, sex, religion and politics.
• No smoking at the table even if it doesn't bother anyone. There are designated smoking areas in the restaurant.
• When the wine is poured into glasses, do not rush to drink it.. The host must say a toast or take the first sip. Before drinking a drink, you need to wipe your lips with a napkin, otherwise there will be greasy marks on the glass.
• When the waiter starts serving the dishes, take the napkin from the plate and place it on your lap.
• If you are allergic to a certain food, you should not talk about it in full hearing or scandal. Just leave the plate with this dish untouched.

Wrap long pasta with a fork and knife. After that, quickly put them in your mouth. Bones from meat or fish that ended up in the mouth are placed on a fork, and then on a plate. If they are too small, you can take them out with your index finger and put them on a plate.

When entering a restaurant, a man opens the door to a woman. The door to the hall is also opened by a man and the lady is let in first. Near the table, the woman chooses the place she likes, and the man must move the chair so that she sits down.

The rest of the rules of etiquette in a restaurant at the table for a woman with a man:

• It is indecent to pull up a chair if you are sitting uncomfortable.. You can just move to the edge.
• If there are two menus, then they are served to both the woman and the man. If there is only one menu, then the lady chooses first.
• Don't limit yourself to the cheapest dishes- this will indicate doubts about the viability of a man.
• Do not order the most expensive dishes, because you do not consider yourself a woman who will take advantage of the opportunity. Pick something in the middle for the price.
• A girl should not say "Order to your taste". One can only ask, “What do you recommend?”
• The order is made by a man, and the lady expresses her wishes to her companion who shows care and resourcefulness in this way.
• Previously, it was impossible to keep your elbows on the table- this rule of etiquette is a thing of the past. In the company of a young man or with friends, no one will pay attention to this. If you are dining with the older generation, then it is better not to risk your reputation.
• Eat slowly and calmly. Don't talk while eating. Start the meal before the man, and finish the meal later.
• Do not rush a man when he eats and don't ask the waiter to bring the bill. He will do it himself.
• A man finishes a romantic dinner. But, if the lady wanted to leave earlier, she can do this by apologizing to her gentleman.
• The man usually pays the bill, and a woman should not feel embarrassed about it. If the man and woman are friends, then you can pay the bill in half.
• Leave beautifully This is also the main thing in the restaurant. You can thank the waiter for dinner and the head waiter. The man leads the lady to the exit, opening the door for her. He picks up outerwear in the wardrobe and dresses himself. Only then does he help the lady get dressed. She must patiently wait for help from her companion.

If you do something not according to etiquette - do not worry. A man will still see you as a well-mannered prude who behaves beautifully in a restaurant and at the table.

Many transactions are concluded not in the company's meeting room, but in the restaurant. Everything affects the result - behavior, the ability to eat mussels or spaghetti, and much more.

Business etiquette in a restaurant - rules for a dinner to be held at its best:

• Guests should not come hungry. After all, the purpose of a business lunch is to resolve specific issues.
• If you are invited to a business lunch, then you need to book a table in advance and study the restaurant menu.
• Both parties should be well versed in cutlery.
• It's indecent to complain about service or food. Don't discuss your diagnosis when refusing a meal if you have an allergy, ulcer, or other illness.
• Before drinking wine or water from a glass, blot your lips. so as not to leave traces of food on the glass.
• Do not eat if invited guests have already finished their meal.
• Topics of religion, medicine and politics are not discussed at the table. Talk only about work. You can talk about children, touch on the topic of weather, history or sights.
• business papers laid out after the waiter clears the table from plates and food.

A business lunch helps to establish friendly contacts with partners and contributes to successful teamwork.

Do not use your mobile phone in a restaurant. Turn off the sound and leave your cell in your coat pocket. Telephone etiquette in a restaurant forbids talking at the table. If you are waiting for an important call, then put your phone in your pocket or purse. When the mobile rings, apologize to your companion and leave the room to talk.

Often when going to a restaurant, many people ask themselves: “Who pays in a restaurant?” If you go with a man for a romantic evening, then he pays. If you have friendly relations, pay in half. At the banquet, the initiator of the feast pays.

Remember: Who will pay for dinner should be agreed in advance. It is indecent to find out when the waiter has already brought the bill.

Communicate politely with the waiter, and he will help you choose the most delicious dish in this restaurant. Next time, the waiter will definitely tell you which dish the chef turned out to be very tasty, and which one is better to try another time.

Video: Etiquette. How to behave in a restaurant

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Earlier I said why I think the cafe is the best place for a date with a girl especially if it's a first date. In this article, I will tell you about the main intricacies of having a date in a cafe: what to talk about, how to behave, whether it is worth paying for a girl, etc.

Date start

If you decide to have a date with your chosen one in a cafe, first of all, you need to choose a suitable place. You can easily find a good cafe for a romantic date with a girl in almost any city. Even in small towns, you can find more than a dozen such establishments, not to mention large metropolitan areas.

I advise you to invite a girl to a place you know well, where you are sure of the quality of service and know the prices. It will be a big plus if the owners or employees of the cafe are your good friends. If everyone in the institution knows you and treats you with respect, this will allow you to impress the girl. If not, no problem either. Invite a girl to a good coffee shop or tea house, where the staff appreciates and treats each client politely.

I advise you to choose a cafe in some interesting place, for example, in a park or in the city center. This will allow you to continue the date with a romantic walk, which can be a great end to it. If you are determined to invite a girl to your house after the cafe, but you don’t have a car, you can choose a good institution near your house and then smoothly move there.

Important! In a cafe, one should not forget about the elementary rules of etiquette: open the door for the girl, help take off her coat, move the chair back so that she can sit down, offer the menu.

If you don’t want to spend a lot of money, and you agreed to meet for tea, when you come to a cafe, you can not take the menu at all, but simply ask: “Which tea do you like more: black or green?”, - and as soon as the waiter comes up, immediately order a drink. So you will not show yourself as a redneck and will be able to save your money. If you have a first date with this girl, and you have not previously discussed how to spend it, at the meeting you can tell her: “I suggest that you go to have tea in one place where you really like it.” Can add intrigue, saying that she will definitely like this place due to one of her interesting features that are not characteristic of other girls. I will talk about the methods of creating intrigue and its positive impact on the beautiful half of humanity later.

What to talk about with a girl

You can talk to a girl in a cafe absolutely everything about what you want, and about what you are really interested in. Some pickup artists advise telling various emotional stories that will help bring the girl to the right wave, and in no case should she be tediously interrogated about who she works for, who to study for, how many brothers and sisters she has, etc.

Of course, it makes sense to have an emotional conversation, tell fascinating stories, because in this way you bring the girl into a positive state, thereby arousing interest in yourself. But I do not agree that asking a girl about anything is not worth it. There are several reasons for this:

Personally, it is really interesting for me to find out what my new acquaintance is doing, whether she shares my interests and how she spends her free time. It is clear that if I am looking for a girl for one night, the selection criteria will be much lower than if I wanted to create a serious relationship with her. But they won't care. It happens that a young lady is beautiful in appearance, but terribly stupid. I don’t like such girls, and I usually end up with them without going to bed, even if they want, of course, if at the moment I have a permanent mistress.

On a date in a cafe, I advise you to relax and talk about what you are interested in. Almost all popular topics will do: movies, music, travel, sex, etc. Sex and gender relations I especially recommend. But here it is important not to go too far, so as not to seem preoccupied. It is more reasonable to ask a girl what she thinks about certain things.

Good phrases to start a conversation:

• Who do you think lies more: men or women?
• I'm interested in your opinion, who cheats more often: men or women?
• Why do girls fight over guys?
• Why are girls afraid to meet first?
• Why do women want sex more than men, but try to hide it?

As you can see, each of these topics is interesting, it can be easily developed and it has a sexual connotation, but at the same time it does not carry anything vulgar in itself. Talking with a girl on such topics, you evoke such emotions in her as interest, embarrassment, cheerfulness, and allow her to liberate herself, which is extremely important on a date.

Boring topics such as computers, cars, IT, higher mathematics, physics, philosophy and high matters, which are so interesting to many of us, are better to bypass the tenth road on a date. The only exception is if the girl herself understands such topics. And even then, I don't recommend it. For example, if she works in the field of IT, then it is possible that she understands the latest computer developments, but it is also likely that during the whole day at work she has already talked so much about it that computers are sitting in her liver and now she would like to just relax and chat about something unpretentious. Imagine a girl wants to have fun and sleep with you, and you start telling her about testing new applications for the latest iPhone model. Well, isn't it stupid?

Remember ! If you are endowed with natural artistry, you can tell the girl some interesting facts about space or deep-sea fish in a fun way. It will be good if it has to be in the subject, as it will emphasize your versatile development. But you should not turn the whole date into a discussion of a similar topic if the girl herself is not interested in her. In addition, it is far from a fact that you yourself will not get bored talking with such a girl.

How to behave on a date in a cafe

On a date in a cafe, behave naturally. Then the girl will feel light and relaxed - you will rest.

Arriving at the cafe, take care of the girl, choose the table at which you will sit. From the very beginning of the date, start touching her. Not to be confused with pawing. Touches should be light and unobtrusive: help the girl take off her coat, gently hug her waist, take her hand, in that spirit.

Important! Start touching the girl from the very beginning. So she will quickly get used to your touch, and will not regard it as something surprising if you suddenly want to touch her. Although, if you are not yet sure if you want to seduce this particular girl, you can wait a little with touching.

It is best to choose a table in the corner, closer to the window - this place is more intimate. Do not choose a table on the aisle. If the cafe has tables with sofas or booths, you can take the girl right there. It is desirable that the lights in the cafe be dimmed.

You should sit down, either opposite the girl, or next to her. It is better to sit next to her, because here it will be easier to start hugging a girl, arouse and kiss her. It also happens that you sat opposite the girl and in the process of communication realized that it was time to get closer to her. In this case, you can just stand up and sit next to her, saying that you are attracted to her like a magnet. It will be even better if you tell the girl to move in with you herself. Just take her gently by the hand and say, "Come to me." If the girl starts to refuse, you can change the topic, for example, talk about something tender, continuing to caress her hand, and then again invite her to move to you or sit next to her yourself. Here it is important to carefully calibrate (observe, understand and evaluate) the behavior of the girl and act in accordance with it. If a young lady behaves coldly and reacts negatively to your attempts to touch her, then you should stop them for now and try to arouse more trust and interest in yourself.

Remember! If a girl reacts negatively to your attempts to touch her, then she has no trust or interest in you. In such cases, it is useful to act according to the principle: one step back, two forward. That is, back off a little - stop pestering, change the topic, lull her vigilance, interest her even more, and then resume her attack again.

If you don't like a girl during a date, there's nothing wrong with ending the conversation with her and leaving. Learn to save your time. It is important to maintain elementary courtesy. Remember that the person may have been preparing for this date for a long time, and since if you invited her, then be kind enough to give her half an hour of your time, except when she is clearly inadequate.

How long should a date last

Several pickup books give clear guidance that the first date should be no longer than 30 minutes. I would recommend that you act according to the circumstances. If you feel good and comfortable with a girl, you can walk with her at least all night. If you are interested in sleeping with her today, you should not take the girl by the hand after half an hour and run headlong from the cafe. It often happens that in half an hour you do not have time to arouse interest and trust in a girl. In the case of fast (quick seduction on the same evening), you may need to spend more time with her in a cafe in order to not only inspire confidence, but also sufficiently excite her. This may take 1-1.5 hours. Further, of course, there is nothing to do in the cafe. You should either take her to your home, or move to another place.

If you're just sorting through a few new girls in order to find the best among them and build a relationship with her, a date in a cafe in your case should last within 30-60 minutes. This will be enough to decide what to do with this girl next.

The question of payment: who should pay

No matter what they say, but in our society it is customary for a guy to pay for a girl. And women among themselves, as well as in the course of communication with male friends, in most situations condemn those guys who do not pay for a girl on a date. On the other hand, my experience shows what to do so that the girl paid for you on a date, you can quite simply. Often this is much more effective than paying for the girl yourself, but not always.

I usually try not to pay for those women with whom I am not sure that I will succeed. In other cases, I advise you to act according to the circumstances. If the communication goes well and I like the girl, I can pay for her. If I don't like it and want to get out as soon as possible, I suggest paying the bill separately. I will say right away that the question for me is not so much in money, but in desire itself. If I don't want to do something, I won't do it. And I'll be honest with you, sometimes I don't want to spend my money on a girl who acts like a fool.

Important! Sometimes, for strategic reasons, it is useful for the girl to pay for you herself. The fact is that when a person invests in something (both psychologically and financially), he begins to appreciate it more.

This technique is especially good for pretentious beauties who are used to the fact that men always pay for them.

You can promote a girl to pay a bill in several simple ways:

• Tell her simply and directly: "I would be pleased if you treated me to a cup of tea." It is advisable to tell her this before you enter the cafe;
• In the cafe itself: “I’m wondering, have you ever paid for a guy? I would be pleased if you would pay for me now. It's not about money, I'm just wondering if you are capable of it?
• If she was late (and girls are often late): “You are late and you will be punished - you have a cup of coffee” or “I was so cold here while I was waiting for you. I don't even know how you're supposed to make amends. You can buy me a cup of hot chocolate."

It is important to say all this with a sense of humor. I do not remember a case when a girl would refuse to pay for me and would stop communicating with me after that, and there were many such cases.

If you don’t like how a girl behaves on a date, and you don’t want to pay for her, then just say that you are used to paying separately - pay your half of the bill and, in theory, you can leave. You can directly tell the girl that she has so much. Indeed, I once had such a case. I invited a girl on a date, she unexpectedly invited me to go to one of the most expensive restaurants in my city. I agreed. I ordered tea and she ordered a cappuccino. In the process of communication, I realized that I did not want to continue anything with her and asked for the bill. When the waiter brought it, I said that she had to pay a certain amount, to which she replied that she had no money, and asked her to lend this amount. I asked her:

How did you go to such an expensive restaurant with no money?

– I don’t know, I’m used to always being paid for me.

In defense of women, I can say that this happened only once. Since the bill was small, I paid it, because I didn’t want to spoil my nerves, but you have the right to do your own thing in a similar situation and no one has the right to condemn you.

Remember! When you go on a date, always have some cash with you. It is not necessary to spend them, but they should be, just in case.

There is also a situation when the girl herself offers to pay the bill separately. In this case, again, you should act according to the circumstances. Sometimes you need to agree, and sometimes, to speed up the process of seduction, you should include a "real man" and insist that you pay for two. It all depends on your plans for this girl, as well as on her behavior.

Remember! I'm not teaching you to rip off poor women, live off of them, or be greedy. There are simply women who are not worth spending money on, or you need to figure out what is more important for her: you or your money?

How to end a date

A date in a cafe can end in one of the following scenarios:

• you go for a walk;
• you are moving to another place;
• you go to her or to your house;
• you say goodbye, arranging the next meeting;
• you say goodbye knowing that you will never see each other again;
• another variant.

Most often, a date in a cafe ends with a regular walk around the city at night. You can immediately take the girl home, or you can sit with her somewhere on a bench or go to the cinema, for example. If you have a car, this will be a huge plus. You can take her to some romantic place - look at the lights of the city at night or at the stars. In the car, you can excite a girl and take her home or have sex with her right there.

If you like a girl, in a cafe you can act according to one of two strategies:

• behave in such a way that she agrees to come to the next meeting;
• seduce her tonight.

The difference between these two strategies is only in the presence of one component - arousal. If you are interesting to her and the girl trusts you, then she will agree to meet with you again, and if she is also excited, then by perseverance, you can invite her to your home right today.

It happens that you want to seduce a girl today, but she doesn’t. In this case, you should be persistent. If a girl goes into a specific refusal, we should remember our old rule: one step back, two steps forward. You should slow down a little and make sure that the girl agrees to meet with you again. Perhaps she will be more accommodating at the next meeting.

Summary: How to have a date in a cafe

In conclusion, I want to highlight a few important points:

• in a cafe, try to get to know your chosen one better;
• talk about fun topics, avoid boring stories;
• if you like a girl, your main task in a cafe is to interest her and inspire confidence;
• if you want to seduce her tonight, after arousing interest and trust, excite her and be persistent; if she refuses, behave in such a way that she agrees to meet with you again;
• do not spend much;
• Don't waste your time and resources on a girl who doesn't suit you.

A date at a restaurant - or cafe - can be called ideal. Both of you should not be distracted by many extraneous factors: people passing by, harsh street sounds, weather conditions. You are guaranteed not to freeze and you will not have to stealthily wipe the sweat that has come out inopportunely. You have the opportunity to completely relax, starting from the physical level - sitting is much easier than walking. In the end, you can get a better look at your date, look into his eyes, catch the shade of a smile. Agree, it is much more difficult to do this when walking.

In case you do not know what to do with your hands, there are many small things on the table, from a fork to a glass. Psychologists say that unconsciously stroking small objects indicates your desire for intimacy. As if you want to stroke your interlocutor, but, not being able to do this yet, transfer your desire to the object. Now that you know about this, you can watch a man: if his fingers periodically make stroking movements on a glass, then he dreams of your caresses. Just keep in mind that a man may do this on purpose to set you up in a sexual way. This is a well-known pick-up technique.

How to choose a restaurant for a date? Best of all, leave it to the man. Most likely, he will choose the institution where he has already been before. Here he will feel confident, and, in addition, he will be aware of the prices. This means that he does not have to worry about his solvency. Sometimes you have to watch how a guy and a girl in love enter a beautifully decorated pub, ordering only beer and nuts .. But when they bring the bill, the guy is embarrassed. And all because he did not know that this restaurant is designed for employees of foreign embassies, so the prices here are appropriate. In any case, you should have enough money with you so that you can pay yourself if something happens. Make sure that your joint order does not exceed this amount - and then you will insure yourself one hundred percent.

So, a date in a restaurant assumes that nothing distracts you from communication. Remember: in no case do not turn a date into an interview in which you are trying to determine your compatibility. Just enjoy the process of mutual recognition of each other, and you will draw conclusions later. It is foolish to expect that you will form the right opinion about your companion in one date. Most likely, you will have time to discern only some features in it, and you simply will not see most of it. Tune in to the fact that you will meet many more times before you start a serious relationship. Don't force things.

What to talk about on a date? Talk about general and "non-dangerous" topics: about your hobbies, about the latest movies you watched, about public events. Do not try to find out the "consistency" of a man. Questions about where he works and how much he earns will strain him. However, if you want, you can talk about your own work. Avoid talking exclusively on "women's" topics. These include discussions of girlfriends, gossip (especially malicious), everyday topics and discussion of rags and cosmetics. Find topics that both of you are really interested in.

If everything suddenly flew out of your head at once, and the interlocutor was also not the most talkative, talk about what you eat. Assess the taste of dishes and drinks, tell what you like to cook or try, ask the man about it. Talking about food always sets you in a more "homely" and cozy way. From the culinary theme, smoothly switch to the theme of travel. Tell us where you have been, remember a couple of funny stories. Such a conversation will be supported by the most shy interlocutor - after all, he went at least fishing!

On a date in a restaurant, you simply have to wear a dress or skirt. No pants, no sportswear! As close to classic as possible. The skirt should not be too short, but you can afford the highest heels - because today you do not have to walk! Make sure your perfume won't overpower your food by applying just two drops to your earlobes. Before going on a date, be sure to check your manicure. If, under normal conditions, unkempt nails can still be somehow hidden, then, sitting at a table in a restaurant, you will be forced to constantly keep your hands in sight. Just imagine how embarrassing it will be if your companion's eyes fall on the peeling paint on the nails!

By the way, about the views. The eyes, as you know, are the mirror of the soul. If a man avoids looking into your eyes or cannot hold your gaze for a long time, this is an alarm signal. Either he didn't like you, or he has some ulterior motives regarding you. It can be unequivocally said that he is not completely frank with you, and you should not trust him. True, there are burnt Casanovas who are able to lie, faithfully looking into your eyes and smiling most charmingly, but there are not so many of them.

Remember that while eating, some of the lipstick may smudge or "eat". You should definitely take with you a mirror, powder, lip pencil and the same lipstick that will be on you. After you've finished your main course, use any excuse to fix your makeup. Doing this at the table is not recommended, especially if the man is looking at you. If you can't send him to the bar for a cocktail, for example, or distract him by talking to the waiter, you'll have to retire to the ladies' room to "powder your nose." And in the literal sense.

Don't procrastinate on a date at a restaurant. You must spend a maximum of two hours there. You yourself will notice how you both get a little emotionally "tired". It is highly desirable to start gathering even before this moment. You should fly home on wings, and your admirer should look forward to the next date. To do this, you should not "oversaturate" communication, even if it is exceptionally pleasant.

And now - the moment of reckoning. When the waiter brings the bill, take out your wallet, but do not rush to open it. Look at the man with a questioning expression in his eyes. If he confidently and without hesitation says: "I'm paying," then smile and put the wallet back in your purse. Paying for your lady in a restaurant is a purely male prerogative, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or obligated. However, if the man hesitates, offer to pay the bill in half. Now many men imagine that girls go on dates only to profit at the expense of others. Show that you are not one of these people.

Let a man "look after" you - give a coat, open the door, hold your elbow on the stairs. At parting, thank him for a pleasant evening (or day), say that you really liked everything. It is very important to let a man know that he is competent enough in your eyes, that he did everything right. Without this, he will not feel full satisfaction. Add something personal: "You are very nice!", "I was interested with you!", "It's nice to talk with you!". Do not forget to smile goodbye - and wait for an invitation to the next date!

A first date, a dinner party, celebrating an important date in a close family circle - all this is an excellent occasion to organize a feast in a memorable place. Any trip to a restaurant is a special event and is accompanied by the selection of the appropriate image in the wardrobe. Stylishly chosen clothes, neat makeup and accessories will remain invaluable if loved ones who intend to share an important meal with you are not familiar with the basic rules of etiquette.

Peculiarities

The basics of restaurant service and etiquette have their own special distinctive features and seemingly insignificant little things that make up the overall impression of the evening. Simple rules begin to operate long before the meeting, for example, it has long been believed that a table in a restaurant should be booked by a man, and also, if possible, he should approach the meeting place a little earlier than the girl.

The first to enter the institution is also a man, if the evening takes place in the company of guests, then according to all the rules, the one who initiated the meeting “leads”, also initially confirming their subsequent consent to payment.

This rule may partially lose its relevance, but still works at secular and business meetings of company leaders and dinner parties during negotiations.

Visitors at the very entrance, according to all the rules, are met by the administrator, also called the head waiter, or the head waiter of the restaurant. The meeting involves greeting and checking the table reservation. If you have a wardrobe, you should leave outerwear there, as well as purchases or, for example, a work briefcase. A man always helps a woman undress by offering a helping hand.

Landing is as follows: a man always gives a woman a more advantageous landing place, for example, overlooking the window or the stage, if the evening involves musical accompaniment. Pushing back one of the chairs, he invites the lady to sit down. Having settled down at the reserved table and having studied the presented menu, you need to make an order.

At this point, you need to correctly call the waiter. Any way to attract attention through all sorts of sounds is considered very ignorant: tapping cutlery on a table or dishes, trying to call out. In such a situation, a simple gesture is enough - a wave of the hand or a nod of the head, accompanied by direct eye contact with the attendants. The most correct option would be to address any representative of the service personnel directly by the name, which is always written on the badge attached to the form.

The opportunity to be the first to order a dish is always given to a guest or a girl, while men follow, as for the choice of alcoholic beverages, it is trusted to the male sex. In principle, initially the distribution of the menu is as follows: the main menu is for the female half, the bar list is for the male.

Try to order the same number of dishes as your companion.

An invitation to a restaurant is a pleasant and significant event. But do not relax, preparation for visiting a cultural institution requires special care. And it's not about the hairstyle and festive attire. The first thing that the guests present and the culprit of the planned event will pay attention to is your manners. Make sure you know the rules of restaurant etiquette.

Etiquette is not a whim of aesthetes, but a social necessity, expressed by a respectful attitude towards each other.

Who meets whom and where?

The initiator of the event should meet guests in the restaurant, and not vice versa. Therefore, he simply must be in the appointed place first. If the inviter is late, guests can sit down at the table they like and wait for the “violator” over a cup of tea. At the same time, the latecomer must state the reason for the delay, of course, a valid one.

For a romantic date, modern couples usually come together, meeting outside the restaurant. Some companies also prefer to enter the institution not alone, but in a group. Especially closed or located in an unfamiliar place. In these 2 cases, being late is extremely indecent. And they choose the meeting place that is more convenient for the female half to get to.

In a large company, it is customary to wait no more than a quarter of an hour for latecomers, after which you need to sit down at a table and start the event. Late-arriving guests should apologize, being careful not to interrupt the speech or toast, take their place, and remember to introduce themselves to their neighbors or drop a polite phrase.

in the lobby

And so, a young couple enters a restaurant. The gentleman must hold the front door and let the lady go ahead. Then help take off her coat and give her time to preen in front of the mirror. At this time, you can undress yourself and hand over your outerwear to the cloakroom.

A man must take off his hat at the entrance. And put on after leaving the restaurant.

In front of the mirror in the lobby, you are only allowed to straighten your hair with your hands. If you need more significant manipulations, you can briefly go to the ladies' room. Or men's, if you need to straighten your tie.

On the way to the table

The door to the restaurant hall itself is also opened by a man, letting the woman go ahead. Then he must overtake her and be the first to greet the approaching head waiter.

If a large company enters the hall, the initiator of the banquet, as a rule, passes first. The waiter will contact him during the order and payment of the bill.

On the way to the table, the man again lets the lady go ahead, allowing her to follow the head waiter. But he chooses a table himself or, if there is no choice, the head waiter will point to a free one.

Having proceeded to the indicated table, the woman independently chooses the place she likes. And the man helps to take it by pushing and moving a chair. He himself takes a place to the left of the lady or opposite for a more comfortable conversation.

It is not civilized to move a chair to the table in a sitting position. If you are uncomfortable, it is better to just sit on its edge.

It happens that the lady is delayed. In this case, the gentleman must inform the head waiter about what awaits the companion. Then the administrator will be able to meet the guest and lead to her table. The man, at the same time, gets up and helps her sit down.

Place a napkin from the table on your knees. At the end of the meal - on the table, without turning.

Contacting the waiter and ordering food

The menu is usually served to each guest, but there are exceptions. If there is only one instance, the first course is chosen by the lady. And here there are several points that many prudes "stumble" about:

• You can not limit yourself to the cheapest dishes, this indicates doubts about the viability of a man.
• The most exquisite and unreasonably expensive dishes are also not an option, because you are not one of those people who would take advantage of the opportunity. It is better to give preference to the golden mean.
• The phrase "Order to your taste" is not acceptable at all. But you can get off with the request "What do you advise"?

It just so happened that it was a man who communicates with the waiter. And the woman expresses her wishes to her companion, this is another great opportunity to show her care and resourcefulness to the lady. But just do not call the waiter to order. He himself will understand that the guests have already made their choice.

If a large company of guests is sitting at the table, the waiter will approach the initiator of the banquet. To the one who booked a table or entered the restaurant first. In this case, the inviter must consult with the others and place an order on his own, taking into account the general wishes.

After the waiter has opened the wine brought for testing, it is already indecent to refuse it. You can afford such a step only if the drink turned out to be spoiled.

meal

The way a person eats food, what devices he uses and how he holds them in his hand, speaks of his culture and upbringing. Therefore, everyone should know the general rules of table etiquette by heart. And even more so when it comes to a restaurant.

They start eating when the dish is in front of each guest. If the banquet is too large, and the dishes are brought for a long time, the waiting guests may offer to start without them. Or you yourself can politely ask if you can start the meal.

An excellent piece of etiquette - not to keep your elbows on the table - is gradually becoming a thing of the past. In a friendly company, no one will focus on this, but at a banquet with the older generation it is better not to risk your reputation.

Eat slowly and calmly. You can not grimace, slurp and knock with a fork or spoon. You can't talk while eating. But at a banquet, you can be contacted at any second, in such a situation it is better to quietly apologize and chew your food than to mutter with a full mouth.

When a man and a woman dine at the table, the lady should start eating earlier, but finish after the gentleman. According to the rules of restaurant etiquette, you can’t rush a man for a meal, and even more so ask the waiter to bring the bill before it ends.

Different situations during a banquet

Even people who know the rules of etiquette from A to Z can get into an awkward situation during dinner at a restaurant. The following rules of behavior in the institution will help to avoid them:

1. Do not pick up appliances that you have dropped on the floor. The waiter will do it himself and replace them with new ones.
2. Broken dishes in a restaurant are no cause for fuss. You just need to ask the waiter to remove the fragments, and the cost of damage will automatically be included in the bill.
3. It is not cultural to fall apart in a chair, talk loudly, bend over a plate.
4. If the dish is absolutely not to your taste, discreetly spit the food into a paper napkin, and not into a plate, so as not to spoil the appetite of other guests.
5. Talking on the phone right at the table is the height of indecency. It is better to apologize and leave the table if the conversation is urgent.
6. If you need to leave, even for a short time, you need to politely ask permission from friends.
7. Don't shout at the people at the next table. Need to talk? Invite a friend to your table or sit down at his table, asking permission from your friends.
8. If a familiar person has entered the restaurant, you can greet him with a nod of your head. As a rule, no one lingers at the table. If the fleeting conversation dragged on, it is better to leave the table and go into the hall. Or invite a person to sit at your table, but only if you yourself organized a banquet.
9. When late guests approach the table, the men stand in greeting, while the women remain in their places. If a lady has joined the banquet, everyone stands up.
10. A negative impression is made by people loudly calling the waiter. Insinuate your need for his presence with a simple nod of your head.
11. The organizer of the evening speaks about the end of the banquet. The man ends the romantic dinner, but if the lady needs to escape urgently, she can do it by apologizing to the gentleman.

Who pays the bill

It is better to discuss payment of the bill in advance; it is unacceptable to do this in the presence of a waiter. After he brought the bill, you need to look into it and immediately pay.

Large banquets are most often paid for by the organizer, while it is not nice to expose the amount spent to the public. A friendly dinner can be paid together or asked for a separate bill for each. Alcohol in this case, men can pay for the ladies, which will be a sign of good manners.

If a couple ate at the restaurant, the man pays the bill himself. And the lady should not feel awkward and obligated. And in combination, when a man and a woman are friends, you can share the costs.

How to leave beautifully

At the end of the meal and payment of the bill, you must thank the waiter and the head waiter. After that, the man escorts the lady to the exit, opening the door for her. He takes outerwear from the wardrobe, dresses himself, and only then helps the lady to dress. She is patiently waiting for help.